Katie
Nov 20. 2010
GW625
Causes and Effects of Divorce
These days, it is not hard to find a drama or movie which deals with an affair or divorce. Maybe the reason is changing of concept of marriage and divorce. Compared to the past, people tend to divorce easily. Most developed nations have serious problems of increasing divorce rate. Especially in America, over 60% of married couple decides to divorce. Whether the concept has been changing or not, increasing divorce rate has social and personal cost. One of the drawbacks of divorce is splitting children. The child whose parents divorce suffers greatly. Even their parents know that their child will suffer from their divorce, but they still choose to divorce. There will be some reasons for them to divorce even they have to bear these problems. Obviously, there are some causes and effects of divorce.
The reason that makes married couple decide to divorce is not just one. Usually, the majority of the people have several reasons to break up. One of the most important and common reason is personality clash. When they got married, they have their own expectations (or fantasy.) The expectations make a big disappointment to each other. Marriage is not a fairy tale but a real life, so the couple started to argue about the very small problem. When the arguing turns to big fight, they call it “personality difference.” Personality clash can bear a huge difficult problem between the two individuals. This huge gab can bear an affair too. If they find out someone else who looks good to them, they can commit adultery. That is why the most common reason of divorce is personality clash.
Another major cause of divorce is troubled spouse. He or she, usually woman, wants to divorce because of his or her alcoholic or violent spouse. Actually, alcoholic husband tends to have a habitual violence. Domestic violence is serious cause of divorce than our thought. Therefore, even though women said the reason of their divorce is personality clash, actual meaning of ‘difference’ is husbands’ violence or alcoholism. In addition, if the spouse is not able to economically, the other one suffers a lot. Marriage is reality, so if the couple cannot solve the economic problem, they consider living separately. Occasionally, they want to divorce to raise their children well. If one person thinks that one’s spouse has a bad influence to their children, he or she gives up their marriage for children’s education. Consequently, troubled spouse become the common cause of divorce.
All these causes give rise to divorce, and divorce affects a lot to people’s life. The effects of divorce can be positive and negative at the same time. These are some effects of divorce.
Like many people think and worry about, divorce bears many problems. It can be social part, also be personal problem. The first negative effect result from divorce is children splitting. Usually, children whose parents divorce suffer a lot of mental problem. Sometimes, they also have to go to court of law to attend their parent’s trial. Therefore, their attendance rate decrease, and usually their grade is decrease too. This can be social negative effect of divorce. Another negative effect caused by divorce is social moral problem. Even though there were many reasons to make them divorce, even though how much the spouse was bad and terrible, still marriage after divorce can bear a moral problem. Especially, if the reason they want to divorce is meeting and marrying to another person, it can be a social moral stuff. These are the negative part of divorcing.
Even though many people think that divorce is a kind of disaster of their life, there are still positive effects of divorce. Some people, most of time, women lose their confidence from the bad marriage. However, after they divorce, they can achieve freedom from their bad husbands. And they can live their own life with confidence. They also raise their children in better condition without fear of violence or many problem induced by bad marriage. Another positive effect is possibility of marrying again with good partner. They can find another good partner, and because they are single, so it can not be the crime. Also, they become independent economically. If their spouse has some economic problems, living separately can be a good way to live their life. Therefore, sometime, divorcing has good effects to people.
The rate of divorce has been increasing so fast. These days, we cannot just ignore this phenomenon. This is the time to face our reality, and try to solve the root. Divorce has some causes and effects, which can be both positive and negative. If there are obvious reason to divorce, they have right to live separately. However, we should try to find out ways to prevent it for our future generation. Hence, knowing the causes and effects of divorce is recommended. When it comes to marriage, we should be careful and think deeply, including possibility of divorce. And recognizing of both parts, especially positive part, of divorce is important. To conclude, thinking freely and taking responsibility about marriage and divorce is required.
